{"id":11284,"date":"2023-12-09T20:37:18","date_gmt":"2023-12-09T20:37:18","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/connectwithfund.com\/news\/the-no-1-way-to-respond-when-your-in-laws-are-rude-to-you-says-harvard-trained-etiquette-expert\/"},"modified":"2023-12-09T20:37:19","modified_gmt":"2023-12-09T20:37:19","slug":"the-no-1-way-to-respond-when-your-in-laws-are-rude-to-you-says-harvard-trained-etiquette-expert","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/connectwithfund.com\/?p=11284","title":{"rendered":"The No. 1 way to respond when your in-laws are rude to you, says Harvard-trained etiquette expert"},"content":{"rendered":"<div id=\"MakeItRegularArticle-ArticleBody-5\" data-module=\"ArticleBody\" data-test=\"articleBody-1\" data-analytics=\"MakeItRegularArticle-articleBody-5-1\"><span class=\"HighlightShare-styles-makeit-hidden--MFwCR\" style=\"top:0;left:0\"><\/span><\/p>\n<div class=\"group\">\n<p>There are many environments where it would benefit you to check any people-pleasing tendencies at the door: work, romantic relationships, even friendships.<\/p>\n<p>Holidays at your in-laws&#8217; house is not one of them, says Sara Jane Ho, a Harvard-trained etiquette expert. Ho is the founder of the finishing school Institute Sarita, host of the Netflix show &#8220;Mind Your Manners,&#8221; and author of an upcoming book, also called &#8220;Mind Your Manners.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>If an in-law lobs a passive aggressive comment or a more direct insult your way, &#8220;just agree and play along,&#8221; she says. &#8220;Be very smiley.&#8221;<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<h2 class=\"ArticleBody-styles-makeit-subtitle--JP3GH\">Let your partner take care of their parents<\/h2>\n<div class=\"group\">\n<p>No matter how rude your spouse&#8217;s parents are, it&#8217;s not your job to reprimand them, Ho says. It&#8217;s your partner&#8217;s job.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;If you want to piss off your in-laws, let your spouse do it, not you,&#8221; she says.<\/p>\n<p>In the moment you should only be agreeable. And you can let your spouse do the &#8220;dirty work&#8221; of explaining to their parents why certain comments are inappropriate, Ho says. <\/p>\n<p>The same rule applies when your parents say something that makes your partner uncomfortable.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;You need to take care of your parents and they need to take care of their parents,&#8221; Ho says.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<blockquote class=\"Pullquote-styles-makeit-container--Gwv2j\" data-test=\"Pullquote\">\n<div class=\"Pullquote-styles-makeit-pullquote--yciaK Pullquote-styles-makeit-pullquoteBase--I6tb3\" style=\"border-top-color:#002f6c\">\n<div class=\"Pullquote-styles-makeit-wrapper--J7kni\">\n<p>If you want to piss of your in-laws, let your spouse do it, not you.<\/p>\n<div class=\"Pullquote-styles-makeit-sourceWrapper--_Vvz3\">\n<p>Sara Jane Ho<\/p>\n<p>etiquette expert<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/blockquote>\n<div class=\"group\">\n<p>If it doesn&#8217;t make sense to smile and agree, Ho suggests just being silent.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;Oftentimes, I feel like when people are being rude the best thing is to just not say anything,&#8221; she told CNBC Make It earlier this year. &#8220;Let everyone wallow, and let them wallow in their misbehavior.&#8221;\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Don&#8217;t let the comments or questions sour your mood during the holiday.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;The greatest power is showing that the other person doesn&#8217;t have power over you,&#8221; Ho says.<\/p>\n<p><em><strong>DON&#8217;T MISS:<\/strong>\u00a0Want to be smarter and more successful with your money, work &amp; life?\u00a0<\/em><em>Sign up for our new newsletter<\/em>!<\/p>\n<p><em>Get CNBC&#8217;s free\u00a0<\/em><em>Warren Buffett Guide to Investing<\/em><em>, which distills the billionaire&#8217;s No. 1 best piece of advice for regular investors, do&#8217;s and don&#8217;ts, and three key investing principles into a clear and simple guidebook.<\/em><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div role=\"region\" aria-labelledby=\"Placeholder-ArticleBody-Video-107342166\">\n<div role=\"button\" tabindex=\"0\" id=\"Placeholder-ArticleBody-Video-107342166\" class=\"PlaceHolder-styles-makeit-wrapper--thzO_\" data-vilynx-id=\"7000324506\" data-test=\"VideoPlaceHolder\">\n<div class=\"InlineVideo-styles-makeit-videoEmbed--utFcj\" id=\"InlineVideo-0\" data-test=\"InlineVideo\">\n<div class=\"InlineVideo-styles-makeit-wrapper--wHgUB\">\n<div class=\"InlineVideo-styles-makeit-inlineThumbnailContainer--G6zAg\"><span class=\"InlineVideo-styles-makeit-videoButton--l7wPM\"><\/span><span class=\"InlineVideo-styles-makeit-playButton--CGx6m\"><span class=\"PlayButton-styles-makeit-playButton--cTuKx\" data-test=\"PlayButton\"><\/span><\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<p>Read the full article <a href=\"https:\/\/www.cnbc.com\/2023\/12\/09\/how-to-respond-to-a-rude-comment-from-your-in-laws.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">here<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>There are many environments where it would benefit you to check any people-pleasing tendencies at the door: work, romantic relationships, even friendships. 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